The Best RSVP Questions to Ask Your Guests

Your wedding RSVP cards serve one main purpose, which is to confirm exactly who will be joining you on the day. But collecting RSVPs for your wedding isn’t just about finalising your headcount – it’s also the perfect way to grab some key information from your guests.

From meal selections to dance floor requests, your RSVP questions can help you save time and stress as you get prepared for your upcoming celebration. Keep reading as we share the best RSVP questions to ask your wedding guests below!

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Guest Details

Confirming the attendance of your guests (and their plus ones, if applicable) is the most important component of your RSVPs. Here are the guest-specific questions you’ll need to include:

  • RSVP status. This is where you’ll give your guests a place to indicate whether they plan to attend. Your wording can be as simple as “Gratefully accepts” and “Regretfully declines”, or something more upbeat like “Heck yes!” or “Will be there with bells on!”. Read our RSVP wording examples here for more inspiration!
  • First and last name of plus one. And if you’re not offering a plus one, make this clear on your RSVP card by saying  “We have reserved 1 seat in your honour”.
  • Physical address. This will come in handy for thank you cards after the day!
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Meal Preferences

When it comes to food service at your reception, use your RSVPs to confirm the following details with your guests:

  • Meal selection. If you’ve opted for plated meals, ask your guests to select their preferred option. You can also use a numbered system, asking guests to rate their preferences from 1-3.
  • Dietary restrictions. This is where your guests can outline any dietary restrictions such as dairy-free, gluten-free or vegetarian.
  • Kids meal. If you’ve decided to host kids at your wedding, it’s a good idea to check whether they’ll require a separate kids meal at your reception. Keep in mind that older kids may prefer an adult meal.
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Accommodation and Travel

If you’re planning a destination wedding or need to shuttle your guests to and from the venue, your RSVP cards are the perfect place to confirm numbers and logistics.

  • Accommodation. Questions like “Do you need accommodation suggestions?” or “Will you be joining us at our group hotel block?” are a thoughtful idea for travelling guests. You can also share accommodation recommendations and hotel block details via your wedding website.
  • Transport. Ask your guests to reserve their seat on the shuttle bus to and from the venue.
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Health and Safety

If you’re planning your wedding during COVID-19, you’ll likely be taking some extra precautions with health and safety. With this in mind, you may want to include the following questions on your RSVP cards:

  • Are you in a high-risk group?
  • Would you prefer to attend our wedding virtually? 
  • Are you happy to wear a mask and practice social distancing?

You can read our guide on RSVP questions to ask during the pandemic here.

Just For Fun

Finally, use your RSVP cards to help you piece together the final fun details of your day! For example:

  • What song is guaranteed to get you up on the dance floor?
  • What is your best piece of marriage advice?
  • What signature cocktail should we serve on the day? (Provide 2 or 3 options for guests to cast their vote!)
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Go Digital

Including these extra RSVP questions is a great way to plan and prepare for your wedding, but they’ll also take up more room on your RSVP cards. Our tip? Go digital with online invitations and RSVPs, instead! 
Simply direct your guests to RSVP online via your wedding website, and create a custom questionnaire where your guests can easily complete their answers. We recently shared 4 of the best websites for sending digital wedding invitations here.